We all want happiness in our lives and relationships. However, how one achieves happiness in a relationship is one of the best-kept secrets. People involved in top-quality relationships do not seek happiness. Instead, they seek growth. Growth, in turn, creates happiness.

When each person in a relationship gets beyond "I want to be happy" and into "I want to grow," the relationship itself becomes transformed. It's basically a matter of relational addition: One growing person + one growing person = one growing (and happy) relationship.